October 6, 2023

Lessons from Winter: Weak Ties

If I was good (note my use of good versus perfect!) at anything during my sabbatical, it was sticking to a cycling routine. At first, it was a tool – a return to the routine I needed. Post-pandemic, it was also an easy way to ease back into the…

January 21, 2022

White Cup, Silver Cup

I have spent the past few weeks laser-focused on rituals – what they are, why we have them, the whole nine yards. Why? Well, I am teaching a workshop on “non-churchy” rituals for colleagues at Phillips Seminary in Tulsa next week, and I sure want…

September 10, 2021

Marriage is Choice

I hit publish with some apprehension a few weeks ago. I’d been sitting on “When It’s Over” for months, considering the risk of posting about divorce when my life’s work is marriage. But, to be honest, to talk candidly about marriage, we must talk…

August 12, 2021

When It’s Over

Maybe it’s weird to have a blog about marriages ending on a wedding site. But maybe it’s not. Because you know what? Marriages end. So let’s talk about it. Mostly, let’s talk about that “until death do us part” line. Because that’s what we all get…

July 30, 2021

Translating

All language has baggage. It’s the nature of language. So, we adjust and shift, and try our best to rearrange language to better convey the truth beneath those pesky, heavy, baggage-laden words. It’s not always an easy or pretty process, but…

July 1, 2021

The Season of Death

One of my favorite books in the Christian Bible is Ecclesiastes (Hebrew: Qoheleth). Most people are familiar with the lines “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die . . .” Hey,…

January 1, 2021

The Turning of Time

The older I get, the more that time confounds me. This year has been eons long, but high school was just the other day. My children are just kids, but my oldest will enter her twenties in less than one month. In my mind, I am still a teenager . . . or at…

December 9, 2020

I Watched a Wedding

I am an intern. As an intern for Central Ceremonies, part of what I am doing is observing rehearsals and weddings. That means, among many things, that I am pivoting careers. It also means that I observe the woman who married me over a decade ago…

November 27, 2020

The Thanks in Thanksgiving

One of the first social rules we’re taught is to say “thank you.” From our earliest years, society insists upon “thank you” as a way to express gratitude and appreciation. It’s likely a daily ritual for most of us. Think about it: we say it aloud,…