May 1, 2024

Why Are You Getting Married?

And so we come to what is apparently the most challenging question I ask my couples. Why Marriage? Why are you getting married? Now, when I first started asking this question, I had no idea it would be so difficult. I didn’t intend for it to be difficult….

April 19, 2024

What Challenges You As A Couple?

Well, if last week was about easy answers that often repeat across couples, this week’s question is, indeed, its opposite. What challenges you as a couple? I get all sorts of answers to this question. Some are vague, and some are detailed. Some…

October 6, 2023

Lessons from Winter: Weak Ties

If I was good (note my use of good versus perfect!) at anything during my sabbatical, it was sticking to a cycling routine. At first, it was a tool – a return to the routine I needed. Post-pandemic, it was also an easy way to ease back into the…

September 29, 2023

Lessons from Winter: Anchors

  I have long cycled. I have a beautiful, vintage blue Bianchi road bike that I’ve ridden for years. Never one to ride alone, my cycling partner (and the person who first got me into cycling) was my former business partner and mentor, Sam….

August 18, 2023

Happy birthday, Mom

Last night I dreamt that my cousin, Nancy, and her husband, Greg, were marrying after years together. First of all, in typical dream-like-suspension-of-reality, this is absurd. Nancy and Greg are married, and have been for years. They have…

July 27, 2023

Year Twenty-nine

I always blog on our anniversary. This, I suppose, is obvious, as I am clearly thinking about marriage, our marriage, and the nature of intimate relationships. And I am, as always, grateful for my spouse and our partnership. As I’ve mentioned…

September 15, 2022

Everything is hard, so now what?

A week or so ago I shared my current mantra: “everything is hard.” I know it maybe isn’t the best mantra. On the other hand, there is power in truth (imagine that!) So, perhaps it’s not the most sunshiney statement, but we all know that the perpetual…

September 1, 2022

Everything is Hard

Everything is hard. That is my mantra these days. I acknowledge that, perhaps, it is not the best mantra. But I am not known among family and friends for being the perpetual ray of sunshine. Instead, I am known for my commitment to speaking the…