May 20, 2025

It’s Not Weird to Have a Stranger Marry You

What if . . . what if you could have a professional officiant? And what if that someone wasn’t a stranger . . . or even all that strange? Someone who is trained to create and hold ritual space? To speak about the marriage commitment in significant ways? Someone whose career and calling has been telling couples’ stories in consequential ways,  setting them off on the marriage adventure with a few more tools in their belts? 

May 1, 2024

Why Are You Getting Married?

And so we come to what is apparently the most challenging question I ask my couples. Why Marriage? Why are you getting married? Now, when I first started asking this question, I had no idea it would be so difficult. I didn’t intend for it to be difficult….

April 19, 2024

What Challenges You As A Couple?

Well, if last week was about easy answers that often repeat across couples, this week’s question is, indeed, its opposite. What challenges you as a couple? I get all sorts of answers to this question. Some are vague, and some are detailed. Some…

April 11, 2024

What Are You Good At As A Couple?

Last week I began a series focused on questions I ask my couples when I’m writing their ceremonies. The questions are always an invitation – to my couples, but also to all of our readers. In fact, I often ask them of myself and my husband,…

November 5, 2023

Anatomy of a Wedding

It’s wedding season here in Texas. The temperatures have returned to the land of sanity, the color palettes have gone beautifully autumnal, and we, as professional wedding officiants, are spending our days marrying our beautiful couples…

September 7, 2023

Lessons from Winter: Expectations

This is the third in a series of collective thoughts from my sabbatical. And if you’re following along (and I hope you are), you know that I failed to post this past week. I totally forgot! And how appropriate for that mistake – nah, mishap…

July 27, 2023

Year Twenty-nine

I always blog on our anniversary. This, I suppose, is obvious, as I am clearly thinking about marriage, our marriage, and the nature of intimate relationships. And I am, as always, grateful for my spouse and our partnership. As I’ve mentioned…

October 14, 2022

Best Friends

“We will be friends until forever, just you wait and see.” – Winnie the Pooh I did not marry my best friend. Did you? For many of my couples, yes. They happily say they are marrying their best friend. I love that. I think it is likely more common to…