June 17, 2024

The Complication of These “Days”

When I wrote this, Mother’s Day had just passed. By all accounts, it should have been a lovely day. My husband made me a spectacular breakfast, and we spent the morning side-by-side watching Premiere League soccer. He gave me terra cotta colored…

May 1, 2024

Why Are You Getting Married?

And so we come to what is apparently the most challenging question I ask my couples. Why Marriage? Why are you getting married? Now, when I first started asking this question, I had no idea it would be so difficult. I didn’t intend for it to be difficult….

April 19, 2024

What Challenges You As A Couple?

Well, if last week was about easy answers that often repeat across couples, this week’s question is, indeed, its opposite. What challenges you as a couple? I get all sorts of answers to this question. Some are vague, and some are detailed. Some…

April 11, 2024

What Are You Good At As A Couple?

Last week I began a series focused on questions I ask my couples when I’m writing their ceremonies. The questions are always an invitation – to my couples, but also to all of our readers. In fact, I often ask them of myself and my husband,…

November 5, 2023

Anatomy of a Wedding

It’s wedding season here in Texas. The temperatures have returned to the land of sanity, the color palettes have gone beautifully autumnal, and we, as professional wedding officiants, are spending our days marrying our beautiful couples…

August 18, 2023

Happy birthday, Mom

Last night I dreamt that my cousin, Nancy, and her husband, Greg, were marrying after years together. First of all, in typical dream-like-suspension-of-reality, this is absurd. Nancy and Greg are married, and have been for years. They have…

July 27, 2023

Year Twenty-nine

I always blog on our anniversary. This, I suppose, is obvious, as I am clearly thinking about marriage, our marriage, and the nature of intimate relationships. And I am, as always, grateful for my spouse and our partnership. As I’ve mentioned…

October 14, 2022

Best Friends

“We will be friends until forever, just you wait and see.” – Winnie the Pooh I did not marry my best friend. Did you? For many of my couples, yes. They happily say they are marrying their best friend. I love that. I think it is likely more common to…

September 26, 2022

The Motherless Decade

I knew this day was coming. Of course I did. It’s marked on my calendar, but I often wonder why I bother. It’s not like my mind, my body, my heart need the reminder. Today marks a full decade without my Mom. The motherless decade. I often say that time…