February 24, 2022

Why the Best Matters

Just a few things from your wedding day go forward with you into your marriage. A great example are the gifts you receive from your friends and family. Another? Your wedding photos, of course, capturing this beautiful day in what will become…

February 3, 2022

Don’t Forget Your Officiant

It’s engagement season. Which means wedding planning begins in earnest for many couples. Beautiful notebook planners are being purchased, budgets set, and timelines established. Well, here is a reminder as you launch into vendor interviews:…

September 23, 2021

What’s in a Name?

What’s in a name? A lot, actually. Names matter. Owning them, saying them, claiming them, changing them, even discarding them – names matter. In fact, they matter so much that there’s a ritualistic quality about naming things, isn’t…

July 30, 2021

Translating

All language has baggage. It’s the nature of language. So, we adjust and shift, and try our best to rearrange language to better convey the truth beneath those pesky, heavy, baggage-laden words. It’s not always an easy or pretty process, but…

April 10, 2021

What is Marriage? Contract or Covenant

One of the most challenging aspects of this blog series has been the question of covenant versus contract. Marriage is one of them, but which one?  I thought this would be a quick and dirty blog: define and then defend. All with the goal of quickly…

March 15, 2021

Why Marriage: the second time around

“Why Marriage?” This was a particularly deep question, after my first marriage ended in divorce after 14 years. The new love of my life was, well, still new to me, so a very reasonable question to ask myself was, is this just a rebound? Will this…