May 20, 2025

It’s Not Weird to Have a Stranger Marry You

What if . . . what if you could have a professional officiant? And what if that someone wasn’t a stranger . . . or even all that strange? Someone who is trained to create and hold ritual space? To speak about the marriage commitment in significant ways? Someone whose career and calling has been telling couples’ stories in consequential ways,  setting them off on the marriage adventure with a few more tools in their belts? 

May 1, 2024

Why Are You Getting Married?

And so we come to what is apparently the most challenging question I ask my couples. Why Marriage? Why are you getting married? Now, when I first started asking this question, I had no idea it would be so difficult. I didn’t intend for it to be difficult….

November 5, 2023

Anatomy of a Wedding

It’s wedding season here in Texas. The temperatures have returned to the land of sanity, the color palettes have gone beautifully autumnal, and we, as professional wedding officiants, are spending our days marrying our beautiful couples…

February 24, 2022

Why the Best Matters

Just a few things from your wedding day go forward with you into your marriage. A great example are the gifts you receive from your friends and family. Another? Your wedding photos, of course, capturing this beautiful day in what will become…

February 3, 2022

Don’t Forget Your Officiant

It’s engagement season. Which means wedding planning begins in earnest for many couples. Beautiful notebook planners are being purchased, budgets set, and timelines established. Well, here is a reminder as you launch into vendor interviews:…

January 21, 2022

White Cup, Silver Cup

I have spent the past few weeks laser-focused on rituals – what they are, why we have them, the whole nine yards. Why? Well, I am teaching a workshop on “non-churchy” rituals for colleagues at Phillips Seminary in Tulsa next week, and I sure want…