Ahhh. Here it is. The fifth and final tip in our short series on the best things a couple should look for when hiring an officiant. We wrote these in response to our dear colleague and friend, senior wedding coordinator Amy Mader with Platinum Wedding and Events. Before I share with you our final tip, I want to link you to Amy’s website blog. Our five tips are part of a longer series created by Amy where she asks colleagues for their five tips in locating amazing wedding vendors. Check it out!
Now, a quick recap of things to consider when hiring your professional wedding officiant. First, hire a professional wedding officiant. Second, hire someone who focuses the wedding ceremony on you and your relationship. Third, hire someone who is creative. Fourth, hire an officiant with vision.
And this week, our fifth tip? Hire someone with whom you “click.” This seems obvious, but if your officiant cannot or does not create a comfortable space for you, you won’t be able to relax into marrying each other. And hey – weddings are fun, joyful events. This is a celebration – not a dirge! You are suppose to be having fun.
Also, realize the officiant will be up in your space the day of the wedding (we have the best seat in the house). Hire someone who creates a relaxed and fun writing process for creating your ceremony. Find someone who is able to create that comfortable, happy space for the two of you, helping you enjoy not just your wedding day, but also those first moments of marriage. And hire someone you trust will not only hold that happy space for you, but be a real part of it.
Look for someone who listens to you and wants to meet you and your partner. Do they want to hear your story? Do they manage their schedule well? Do they care about what makes you comfortable and relaxed? Do they provide a rehearsal so you enter your wedding day relaxed? When do they arrive at your wedding?
Find someone who loves their work. Don’t be shy about asking for references or reading reviews. That love of work will translate into a love for telling your story and being a part of your marriage journey.
Sarah has been crafting custom weddings for couples of all kinds since 1999. Sarah is a Ravenclaw, and loves mythology, historical fiction, hot tea, and cycling of all sorts. She is an ordained minister who believes in coloring outside the lines. Sarah has been married to her best friend, Joe, since 1994. Together, their greatest treasures are their two children and the marriage they’ve worked hard to cultivate.