Everything is hard.
That is my mantra these days. I acknowledge that, perhaps, it is not the best mantra. But I am not known among family and friends for being the perpetual ray of sunshine. Instead, I am known for my commitment to speaking the truth.
And here is the truth: Everything is hard right now.
I could make a list of all the reasons of what I find hard and why. It’s a long list. But why? I know that most of you have your own list, and this isn’t a game of one-upmanship.
I could also spend the next paragraphs giving you the pep talk I’ve been giving myself for months and months and months. But I won’t because I suspect many of you have been giving yourself the same pep talk.
Instead, I will just say it again: everything is hard.
I wonder – is this some sort of reckoning? Like: Welcome to the real world, Sarah. You’ve been spoiled.
Or, in fact, are things just really hard right now?
Or both?
I am not sure. Probably both.
So what happens when things are hard, and the internal pep talks no longer work? What happens when you realize you are mid-row of the big ole struggle bus? Great question. I was asking myself the same thing. What do I do now?
Well, I’m not sure, exactly . . . again, my commitment to honesty over sunshine here. But I am trying some things. Next week, I am going to share three of those things with you.
Why not share them now, you ask? Well, because often (always?), there is power in stating the reality of a situation, of saying your truth — and then, being in it for a bit.
So, for now, I am simply going to say again: everything is hard.
Sarah has been crafting custom weddings for couples of all kinds since 1999. Sarah is a Ravenclaw, and loves mythology, historical fiction, hot tea, and cycling of all sorts. She is an ordained minister who believes in coloring outside the lines. Sarah has been married to her best friend, Joe, since 1994. Together, their greatest treasures are their two children and the marriage they’ve worked hard to cultivate.