January 21, 2022

White Cup, Silver Cup

I have spent the past few weeks laser-focused on rituals – what they are, why we have them, the whole nine yards. Why? Well, I am teaching a workshop on “non-churchy” rituals for colleagues at Phillips Seminary in Tulsa next week, and I sure want…

October 7, 2021

A Tale of Two Ways

When I was in high school, we had to read “A Tale of Two Cities.” Upon completing the book, I was angry. I mean really, really mad. I’d just spent a week reading an entire book only to have **spoiler alert** the hero die at the end. In fact, I was so upset,…

September 30, 2021

COVID candy

In the midst of this seemingly never-ending global pandemic, I’ll admit there have been some moments of laughter, lightness, and happiness. I’ll admit to some silver linings and insights.  I’ll acknowledge that the slower pace of life has…

September 16, 2021

Eighteen Months

My friend, who happens to be the brainchild behind my blog, recently asked me to blog about life 18 months into a global pandemic. As I sat across from her, I told her I likely wasn’t the best person for that blog post. I don’t have much to say, to be…

September 10, 2021

Marriage is Choice

I hit publish with some apprehension a few weeks ago. I’d been sitting on “When It’s Over” for months, considering the risk of posting about divorce when my life’s work is marriage. But, to be honest, to talk candidly about marriage, we must talk…

September 2, 2021

Empty Nest

This week I become an empty nester. For most of my couples, this part of life is so far away it barely exists. I know I couldn’t have begun to fathom an empty nest when I was a young married person in my twenties. And when my mother-in-law would speak…

August 12, 2021

When It’s Over

Maybe it’s weird to have a blog about marriages ending on a wedding site. But maybe it’s not. Because you know what? Marriages end. So let’s talk about it. Mostly, let’s talk about that “until death do us part” line. Because that’s what we all get…

August 6, 2021

A Word (or more) of Advice?

Not too long ago, I was texting with a colleague and friend. After a back and forth on tea versus coffee (tea, by the way), she asked: “What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?” I didn’t immediately answer. I mean, it depends, right? The best…

July 1, 2021

The Season of Death

One of my favorite books in the Christian Bible is Ecclesiastes (Hebrew: Qoheleth). Most people are familiar with the lines “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die . . .” Hey,…