June 17, 2021

When It’s Hard

It’s been a month over here. Or wait. Really, it’s been a year . . . and yeah, I get that it is only June. And I get that last year was a piece of work. But 2021 has been a lot for our little family. Over the course of five months we have weathered… Read more »

May 24, 2021

The “Me” in “We”

On Marriage BY KAHLIL GIBRAN Then Almitra spoke again and said, And what of Marriage, master? And he answered saying: You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter…

May 14, 2021

Take Love for Granted

Take Love for Granted by Jack Ridl Assume it’s in the kitchen, under the couch, high in the pine tree out back, behind the paint cans in the garage. Don’t try proving your love is bigger than the Grand Canyon, the Milky Way, the urban…

April 10, 2021

What is Marriage? Contract or Covenant

One of the most challenging aspects of this blog series has been the question of covenant versus contract. Marriage is one of them, but which one?  I thought this would be a quick and dirty blog: define and then defend. All with the goal of quickly…

March 15, 2021

Why Marriage: the second time around

“Why Marriage?” This was a particularly deep question, after my first marriage ended in divorce after 14 years. The new love of my life was, well, still new to me, so a very reasonable question to ask myself was, is this just a rebound? Will this…

March 15, 2021

Why Marriage? An Ongoing Conversation

Last week I publicly posed a question that I often privately ask my clients in the context of writing their marriage ceremonies. Why are you marrying? And much like the answers we’ve received from clients over the years, the responses to our…