June 27, 2021
Even before the pandemic, loneliness and isolation were huge issues in our country. The digital divide is more than just an economic issue. These phones and computers that seemingly connect us, also separate us. In April of 2020, as the global…
June 17, 2021
It’s been a month over here. Or wait. Really, it’s been a year . . . and yeah, I get that it is only June. And I get that last year was a piece of work. But 2021 has been a lot for our little family. Over the course of five months we have weathered… Read more »
May 29, 2021
“The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest…
May 24, 2021
On Marriage BY KAHLIL GIBRAN Then Almitra spoke again and said, And what of Marriage, master? And he answered saying: You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter…
May 14, 2021
Take Love for Granted by Jack Ridl Assume it’s in the kitchen, under the couch, high in the pine tree out back, behind the paint cans in the garage. Don’t try proving your love is bigger than the Grand Canyon, the Milky Way, the urban…
April 24, 2021
We’ve spent the past two weeks considering what marriage is in an effort to answer the question “why do we marry.” We’ve done so by defining covenant and contract and then asking – which one is marriage? There are certainly pieces of marriage…
April 15, 2021
Contract: an agreement between people (or entities) that creates mutual obligations enforceable by law. The basic elements required for the agreement to be a legally enforceable contract are mutual assent, expressed by a valid offer and…
April 10, 2021
One of the most challenging aspects of this blog series has been the question of covenant versus contract. Marriage is one of them, but which one? I thought this would be a quick and dirty blog: define and then defend. All with the goal of quickly…
March 24, 2021
As a systems-oriented marriage and family therapist, my short answer would be: because the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Creating something greater than ourselves is an intrinsically human goal. From the first cave dweller who…
March 15, 2021
“Why Marriage?” This was a particularly deep question, after my first marriage ended in divorce after 14 years. The new love of my life was, well, still new to me, so a very reasonable question to ask myself was, is this just a rebound? Will this…