May 20, 2025

It’s Not Weird to Have a Stranger Marry You

What if . . . what if you could have a professional officiant? And what if that someone wasn’t a stranger . . . or even all that strange? Someone who is trained to create and hold ritual space? To speak about the marriage commitment in significant ways? Someone whose career and calling has been telling couples’ stories in consequential ways,  setting them off on the marriage adventure with a few more tools in their belts? 

July 24, 2024

Thirty Years

I write wedding ceremonies for a living. I write custom vows for a living. So, as I think about my couples’ wedding vows, I often find myself thinking about my own vows. And today, on my thirtieth wedding anniversary, I am thinking about those…

June 17, 2024

The Complication of These “Days”

When I wrote this, Mother’s Day had just passed. By all accounts, it should have been a lovely day. My husband made me a spectacular breakfast, and we spent the morning side-by-side watching Premiere League soccer. He gave me terra cotta colored…

May 23, 2024

Collaborating

This past week, we had the privilege of collaborating with Satin Wedding Co, a professional wedding coordinating team here in Austin, on a document they provide for their clients. It’s actually one of many helpful documents they provide…

May 1, 2024

Why Are You Getting Married?

And so we come to what is apparently the most challenging question I ask my couples. Why Marriage? Why are you getting married? Now, when I first started asking this question, I had no idea it would be so difficult. I didn’t intend for it to be difficult….

April 19, 2024

What Challenges You As A Couple?

Well, if last week was about easy answers that often repeat across couples, this week’s question is, indeed, its opposite. What challenges you as a couple? I get all sorts of answers to this question. Some are vague, and some are detailed. Some…

April 11, 2024

What Are You Good At As A Couple?

Last week I began a series focused on questions I ask my couples when I’m writing their ceremonies. The questions are always an invitation – to my couples, but also to all of our readers. In fact, I often ask them of myself and my husband,…

March 31, 2024

And So Am I

  International Women’s Day was celebrated on March 8th this year. To be honest, I love the day, and I love the sentiment. But in the past, the day has pretty much come and gone for me. Which, now, in some hindsight, brings up all sorts of thoughts….