I’ve spent the past three weeks amusing myself (and hopefully you) by poking holes in bad marriage advice. Each time, I’ve attempted to present more honest truths about marriage, and wonder more creatively about the marriage relationship. So, let’s say goodbye to “Never go to sleep angry,” “Love conquers all,” and “Marriage is 50-50.” Good […]
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Oh, hey! It’s my third installment in debunking those pithy, and supposedly helpful, statements we all hear about marriage. So far, I’ve taken “Never go to sleep angry” and “Love conquers all” to task. This week? This one is a piece of work. “Marriage is 50-50.” Well, let me get right to it: It’s a […]
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I launched a blog series this past week on marriage advice. Actually, I launched a blog series on bad marriage advice. Because sometimes we are careless with words and thoughts, as well as our reception to words and thoughts tossed our way. I opened this little series by taking on the oft-given, but misguided, “Never […]
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Let’s talk about all the advice we hear around marriage. And there is a lot of it. I hear it all the time. And sure, I dispense my fair share of it, too. But I am going to be honest – a lot of the advice we hear and dispense is pretty lousy advice. So, […]
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“Non-churchy” might be my new favorite word. Recently, I led a workshop for my ministry colleagues on rituals. They asked me to speak because my work, of course, is providing rituals to the non-spiritual, the “nones,” and the spiritual-not-religious. That is to say, I provide rituals for what one colleague called the “non-churchy.” (Note: The […]
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Just a few things from your wedding day go forward with you into your marriage. A great example are the gifts you receive from your friends and family. Another? Your wedding photos, of course, capturing this beautiful day in what will become weeks, months, and years of an ongoing love story. The other obvious? You […]
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I recently led a workshop on rethinking rituals at Phillips Seminary in Tulsa, Oklahoma. While planning out the class, I asked my colleague and friend, Professor Allie Utley, what she thought those attending might want to hear. Without hesitation, Allie replied, “I think we are all needing to hear a word of hope.” Well, isn’t […]
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It’s engagement season. Which means wedding planning begins in earnest for many couples. Beautiful notebook planners are being purchased, budgets set, and timelines established. Well, here is a reminder as you launch into vendor interviews: don’t forget to book your officiant! You will need someone to make that wedding legal. And more honestly? You will […]
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I have spent the past few weeks laser-focused on rituals – what they are, why we have them, the whole nine yards. Why? Well, I am teaching a workshop on “non-churchy” rituals for colleagues at Phillips Seminary in Tulsa next week, and I sure want to be prepared. Also, two years into a global pandemic, […]
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In our sixth and final installment on tips to consider when hiring your wedding officiant, we thought it might be nice to give you a list of questions to ask as you start looking for the perfect person to create your ceremony. Of course, we have to recap the five things you’ll want to consider. […]
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